The ABC Cancer Diaries

A young, American-Born-Chinese woman living with metastatic breast cancer

Update: Memorial Walk for Wynne – Sat April 23 April 22, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — stevenwaseda @ 6:05 pm

The walk is still on, even with the expected rain.  Grand Army Plaza at 11am.

However, instead of a picnic, everyone is welcome to gather at Soda Bar on Vanderbilt Ave and St. Marks place.  They serve food and there are some other places to get food along the way there as well.

And remember:  It’s a celebration. 🙂 (Just as Wynne requested last year.)  Festive dress is welcome and encouraged.

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Helen uses her passport! April 21, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — stevenwaseda @ 9:11 pm

Wynne would have been extremely proud to see Helen make her first trip abroad last week.

We went to London to visit our very dear friend Philippe.  Helen got her passport stamped, slept well on the flight and adjusted rather well to the jetlag too.  She saw the Tower Bridge, said “hi” to virtually everyone she met, saw the London Marathon, attended a cherry blossom party in Hyde Park and visited the bilingual French/English nursery school that Philippe runs.

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"Jolly good trip, I say."

 

April 23 Memorial Walk in the Park for Wynne April 10, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — wenren @ 12:32 am

Hi everyone,

I was thinking it would be nice to remember Wynne on Saturday, April 23, one year from the date that she died. And I was thinking a nice yet simple way to do it would be to take a walk around Prospect Park together like we did last year for her memorial service, and then have a picnic.

The plan is to meet near the Grand Army Plaza entrance a little before 11am. And for the picnic, just bring something to eat and perhaps a little to share with others. You are of course also welcome to bring stories and memories of Wynne that you would like to share in conversation. Dogs and frisbees welcome too. Wynne had said last year that she wanted her memorial service to be celebratory and joyful, so we’ll continue in that style. 🙂

In the event of rain, we’ll still do the walk but probably forgo the picnic.

No need to rsvp. Just show up if you can make it, and we’ll see you there.

Thanks.

Steven

 

Happy Birvaleversary March 8, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — stevenwaseda @ 7:04 am

February was the month for both Wynne and my birthdays as well as Valentine’s Day and our anniversary (Feb 17).  Plus Chinese New Year often falls in February.  It was my brother a few years back who suggested that we just celebrate a “Birvaleversary,” which of course led to debate as to whether one gift would be sufficient to cover all of the dates.

This year for our first anniversary apart, it seemed like the best way to celebrate, remember and honor Wynne would be to go back to Kajitsu, the very fancy temple-style Japanese restaurant in the East Village, with Akeo and Danielle.  (And where a JET alum friend used to work.)  Wynne and I went there around the same time last year, also with Akeo and Danielle, and had the most beautiful (and delicious) meal I think we’ve ever had.  We had the meal more or less knowing what was coming in the near future.  And being able to share the unique food experience with friends added to the depth of feeling.

When Wynne was in the hospital in April, she wanted to do something to thank Akeo and Danielle for various ways they had been helpful, and we got them a gift certificate to Kajitsu.  Four days after Wynne died, they used the gift certificate as an opportunity to not only eat there, but also to photograph and document the beauty and feeling of the experience and to honor Wynne and express how much they missed her.

Going back to Kajitsu with them on February 17 seemed to be an ideal way to spend the evening together with them and with Wynne.  And it was.

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"Year of the Rabbit" mochi

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Kajitsu February 2010

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Kajitsu April 2010

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For Wynne’s birthday (Feb 26), Wynne’s cousin Christine organized a big family gathering for everyone to eat Mongolian hot pot at her home in New Jersey.  It was nice to be together with her family, and she even invited my parents to join as well.  Wynne’s mom brought several books of photos of Wynne and her family, and we spent time looking through those and hearing stories and background of family history.

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And now some updated Helen photos to remind us of the happy times:

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….and one nice photo from last year.

 

Cutting the cheese January 27, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — stevenwaseda @ 5:54 am

Wynne was on the Food Processing Squad for her monthly shifts at the food co-op.  And if it ever came up in discussion, she always took every opportunity to let you know that she had been “cutting the cheese.”  Which was completely accurate, and which I always told her she did better than anyone else I ever knew.

I recently had to start doing shifts again after 12 months of parental leave (thanks Helen).  And I managed to get myself on the Food Processing Squad, same time and week that Wynne did it, with several of the same people whom she came to know well and who came to know her as well as her cancer.  And tonight, despite the latest blizzard, I made it to my first food processing shift.  And of course I spent a good portion of it cutting the cheese to the best of my ability.

Going there, doing some of the things Wynne used to do, and getting to spend time with the people she used to spend time with, these are little things that provide me with a feeling of connection to her.  Something I appreciate even more as more time passes and I feel her presence continuing to slip away from me.

 

First Date anniversary December 24, 2010

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December 24, 2004 was the first time Wynne and I met each other.  We both had the day off and arranged to meet for brunch after talking a couple times on the phone and exchanging emails.  And we ended up going to Los Pollitos II on 5th Ave in Park Slope.  (Beso was closed.)

Each year we went back to Los Pollitos II to remember and celebrate the good, the bad and the awkward of our first date.  And to eat their rather yummy Mexican food.

Here are some photos from a couple years ago:

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It was a perfect first date.  I still miss you Sweetheart.

 

Helen at play December 12, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — stevenwaseda @ 9:48 pm

“She takes a lickin’, and keeps on tickin’, never gonna let her go.”

–John Prine, “In Spite of Ourselves”