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A young, American-Born-Chinese woman living with metastatic breast cancer

Happy Birvaleversary March 8, 2011

Filed under: Uncategorized — stevenwaseda @ 7:04 am

February was the month for both Wynne and my birthdays as well as Valentine’s Day and our anniversary (Feb 17).  Plus Chinese New Year often falls in February.  It was my brother a few years back who suggested that we just celebrate a “Birvaleversary,” which of course led to debate as to whether one gift would be sufficient to cover all of the dates.

This year for our first anniversary apart, it seemed like the best way to celebrate, remember and honor Wynne would be to go back to Kajitsu, the very fancy temple-style Japanese restaurant in the East Village, with Akeo and Danielle.  (And where a JET alum friend used to work.)  Wynne and I went there around the same time last year, also with Akeo and Danielle, and had the most beautiful (and delicious) meal I think we’ve ever had.  We had the meal more or less knowing what was coming in the near future.  And being able to share the unique food experience with friends added to the depth of feeling.

When Wynne was in the hospital in April, she wanted to do something to thank Akeo and Danielle for various ways they had been helpful, and we got them a gift certificate to Kajitsu.  Four days after Wynne died, they used the gift certificate as an opportunity to not only eat there, but also to photograph and document the beauty and feeling of the experience and to honor Wynne and express how much they missed her.

Going back to Kajitsu with them on February 17 seemed to be an ideal way to spend the evening together with them and with Wynne.  And it was.

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"Year of the Rabbit" mochi

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Kajitsu February 2010

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Kajitsu April 2010

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For Wynne’s birthday (Feb 26), Wynne’s cousin Christine organized a big family gathering for everyone to eat Mongolian hot pot at her home in New Jersey.  It was nice to be together with her family, and she even invited my parents to join as well.  Wynne’s mom brought several books of photos of Wynne and her family, and we spent time looking through those and hearing stories and background of family history.

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And now some updated Helen photos to remind us of the happy times:

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….and one nice photo from last year.