The ABC Cancer Diaries

A young, American-Born-Chinese woman living with metastatic breast cancer

Wedding Menu September 23, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — stevenwaseda @ 2:27 pm

I just received a nice email this week from the woman who catered our wedding who only recently found out about Wynne when Wynne’s name was mentioned by the rabbi during the Yom Kippur Yizkor service at Congregation Beth Elohim.

We were reminiscing among other things about the food, and she was nice enough to email me the menu we worked out beforehand.  (And by “we” I primarily mean Wynne.)  So I thought I’d share it on the blog.  I myself recall barely eating anything at the wedding due to excessive schmoozing and dancing.  But other people told me how good the food was.  And Wynne, of course, appreciated every bit of it.




Stationary Hors d’Oeuvre
International Cheese Platter
Crudite W/ Dip

Passed Hors d’Oeuvre
Artichoke-Avocado-Mint Bruschetta
Dim Sum (No Pork/No Shellfish) with a Cilantro-Soy Dipping Sauce
Vegetable Pecoras with a Mango Chutney Dipping Sauce
Sesame Noodles Served in White Take Out Containers with Chop Sticks
Congee In Shot Glasses
Pigs-In-The Blanket
Risotto Rounds with Mushroom Duxelle


Wok Station
Vegetable or Chicken-Vegetable Stir Fry with a Black Bean Sauce
Served over Steamed White Rice
Carving Station
Brisket Of Beef
Breast Of Turkey
Roasted Sweet Potatoes
Sauteed String Beans
Fish Station
Seared Tuna
Green Mango Salad


Platters of Fruit and Chocolate Truffles Placed at Every Table


Mid-autumn Moon Festival September 22, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — stevenwaseda @ 11:23 am

I was just reminded by Wynne’s friend Kathy that today is the Chinese Mid-autumn Moon Festival.  It’s a harvest holiday and they symbolic food is “moon cakes” (which are very different than moon pies).

I realized that if Wynne were here, I would hear her making references to it.  Probably going to Chinatown to buy some mooncakes to give her class and preparing a lesson on it.  Maybe organizing a gathering for our friends to celebrate together where she would get to make something yummy for everyone.

Happy Zhongqiu Jie, Wynne.  We miss you.


Helen at the piano September 13, 2010

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Like Mommy like daughter.


Rosh Hashana memories September 10, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — stevenwaseda @ 8:55 pm

I didn’t really observe Rosh Hashana this year.  And I think it’s largely because I associate a lot of it with Wynne and somehow observing it felt difficult.  I think Wynne always kind of looked forward to Rosh Hashana.  And primarily because of the food.  She liked to email me articles with recipes for Rosh Hashana-appropriate dishes in anticipation.

But the memory that stands out the most is the first time I brought her back to Princeton for Rosh Hashana with my family.  She’d never been to a Rosh Hashana service before and hadn’t really done any Jewish holidays with my family.  For some reason my mom was really pushing us to get out the door that morning because she wanted to sit up close rather than towards the back.  However, the way we timed it we were still a little late so the only seats up close that were still available were right in the front row.

So we all paraded right up to the front with everyone looking while I felt somewhat self-conscious dragging my “Asian Shikse” into her first Rosh Hashana in this way.  At the end Wynne commented, “I didn’t realize the service was so long!”  Needless to say we did things a little differently in subsequent years.

I miss you, Wynne.

Happy New Year.  L’shana tovah.  Xin nian kua le.