On July 12 we were so very happy to welcome Helen’s new cousin Ethan into the world (courtesy of my brother Greg and his wife Aimee). Interestingly, Ethan was born one day after cousin Preston’s 1st birthday! So she has one cousin 6 months older and another 6 months younger.
Tonight Helen and Ethan met for the first time.
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As I’ve become increasingly aware, big and happy life events are also reminders of Wynne’s absence. A reminder that I can’t turn to her and tell her the good news when it happened. A reminder of how much she would have loved seeing Helen play with Ethan and give helpful advice and share baby clothes and other things with my brother and his wife. I wish she could be here for all of it and all that’s to come. I know how happy it would have made her. At the same time, I don’t want every happy event to be tinged with sadness. But I think that’s how it’s just going to be for a while until it hopefully evolves over time.
The ABC Cancer Diaries 
Yes, Steve, you will evolve over time. Change, and, then, more change is a guarantee.
Always in the unknown waiting for the known, i.e., what’s next to manifest.
Some believe that we don’t change but, rather, are unveiled, revealed to our true nature which is wholeness.
Wholeness involves making room for all aspects of ourselves VS dis-owning parts and/or killing them off.
Kindness to self is key here.