I’ve been meaning to write several blog posts recently but haven’t had time. So I figured one shorter, condensed post is better than longer, more detailed ones that never get written.
Here are some very nice and touching recent tributes to Wynne:
My parents’ synagogue in Princeton reached out to them a little while back and wanted to do something to support them and remember Wynne. My parents decided to plant a cherry blossom tree in the front yard, right by the driveway, where another tree had recently been knocked out by a storm. As my mom said, “I’ll see it and think of Wynne every time I come home and pull into the driveway.”
So on Sunday I drove to Princeton with Helen as well as Wynne’s Oberlin friend (and member of the Council of Moms) Anita for a very special and moving tree planting ceremony attended by about 50 people, mostly our close friends from Princeton but also Wynne’s brother Winslow, his wife Lynda and their 11 month old son Preston. Rabbi Feldman talked about Wynne, about the Princeton community’s concern for supporting my parents in their loss, and about the symbolic importance of trees in Judaism. He noted that we mourn a loss in two ways: 1) the loss of the person, and 2) the loss of their memory. The hope is that the cherry blossom will be one more way to keep Wynne’s memory for many, many years to come.
Of course, any Jewish ceremony or celebration of Wynne wouldn’t be complete without food. And my folks and their friends put together a wonderful spread of bagels, lox and egg salad along with a few different quinoa salads and some homemade sesame noodles (thanks to Pei. 🙂
After the ceremony and eating and schmoozing (all of which Wynne would have loved), and after most of the guests had left, we remembered Wynne by doing something else she loved: swimming (in my parents’ pool). Helen and Preston were the biggest swimming fans followed closely by an elated Nai-Nai and Yieh-Yieh. Also enjoying the swimming was Aunt Aimee and Uncle Greggie’s child-to-be-named-in-a-week-or-so who splashed around inside Aunt Aimee’s tummy.
Here’s a link to more photos from the day. There’s also a 13 minute video of the ceremony itself: http://gallery.me.com/carherb/100456
2. Lee & Gila’s Wedding
Our very good friends Lee & Gila got married this past Sunday evening. I am so happy for them and I know Wynne is too. It was sad that Wynne couldn’t be there to see it in person (though Helen did a wonderful job as my date). But Lee & Gila paid a wonderful tribute to Wynne by giving to their guests a small wedding favor bag along with a scroll that read:
3. The Colbert Report
Tonight I attended the taping of The Colbert Report together with Akeo (while Danielle babysat for Helen).
Update: Here’s the full episode – http://www.colbertnation.com/full-episodes/tue-june-29-2010-julian-castro
Su May got tickets for me a while back (via Facebook). The significance of going to the taping, of course, is that Wynne had obtained tickets for a show in April. But we couldn’t go because she was in the hospital. Subsequently, Stephen C. himself came to visit Wynne in the hospital (thanks to Sloan-Kettering) and we had a wonderful and very memorable and personal conversation with him.
So tonight was finally a chance to see the taping, and it turned out to be extremely fun. I kept thinking how much Wynne would have enjoyed it. At one point the warm-up-the-crowd comedian started picking on me because of my goofy Brasil hat (which I got on our honeymoon) and the angry, one-eyed pig shirt I was wearing. He was working the crowd and asked me what I do. I told him that I make bankruptcy cartoons. He just didn’t know what to do with that. I was embarrassed and was also laughing so hard. It was a great time and the show was a really good one as well.
Throughout the entire taping I was holding the little magnetic plastic action figure with Wynne’s smiling photo in it so that she could be there too. And every time I looked down at it I could see her laughing at all of the jokes.